Everything is not alright

With the holidays approaching, I feel a very strong desire to hang the decorations, make everything feel festive, and create some semblance of normal in this very abnormal year. I have a feeling that I’m not alone in wanting to forget about all the hardship of 2020 by covering up the pain with Christmas lightsContinue reading “Everything is not alright”

A Counselor’s Guide to Advent

Advent is a season of preparation and waiting for the coming of Jesus at Christmas. In what the world views as one of the busiest times of the year, Advent stands as a welcome contrast, inviting us to slow and pause. Advent is an invitation to let go of striving, to let go of theContinue reading “A Counselor’s Guide to Advent”

More than a diagnosis

In this episode, I talk with a fellow counselor and friend, Antonia Seman. We discuss the role of diagnosis in the counseling process and what it really means to receive a mental health diagnosis. We also give a counselor’s perspective on the counseling process and how we help others find healing. We shed some lightContinue reading “More than a diagnosis”

Why sharing your feelings isn’t optional

One of the biggest issues we face in relationships with others is difficulty with direct communication. Did you know that God did not give us the capability to accurately know the thoughts and feelings of others? He very well could have given us this ability, but He decided that the one way for us toContinue reading “Why sharing your feelings isn’t optional”

Identity Wounds & Moana

The human heart loves a good story. Our minds work well with stories. This is why Jesus chose to teach using parables. Movies can have this same effect, helping us understand deeper truths about ourselves and the world and opening our mind to new ideas. Maybe I’m just going a bit crazy because my toddlerContinue reading “Identity Wounds & Moana”

Do you believe that you are good?

Here’s a typical conversation that comes up fairly often in my office: Me: “What would it be like to believe that you are worthy and good, no matter what, regardless of your actions?” Client: Answer A: “That doesn’t sound right. Yeah, God loves me, but I’m supposed to love him back. I have to showContinue reading “Do you believe that you are good?”

When things don’t go your way

You didn’t get that great job you applied for. The person you have feelings for doesn’t feel the same. That great opportunity fell through. You didn’t get accepted into the program. The person you trusted most let you down. You know the feeling. You had the courage to let yourself hope and envision the possibilityContinue reading “When things don’t go your way”